Sunday 29 January 2012

Love and Commitment

It's difficult to dedicate yourself for any amount of time. Deep down we want to be in it for the long haul, but that kind of commitment is hard.

What you strive for, is love. You want to give your life meaning and structure. I found that with 'The West Wing,' and it was heaven, we were made for each other. But it ended years ago and I still think I'm suffering.

I've tried. You take it easy and try out a pilot episode of something new. Usually you know straight away that it isn't for you, but occasionally you give it a few more episodes just to see if there's anything there. 

It's so rare. People take it for granted when they find the one, they think it's easy. People committed to 'Friends' and it was a breeze. Same with 'Frasier', too. Life was like a fantasy back then, but now it's harder.

There's so much choice. We want to commit, but we're afraid. What happens if you get three seasons in and realise you want different things? Or you realise they never cared about you at all? We all know what happened with 'Lost', and experiences like that are hard to recover from. 

It's easier when you're young, you'll give anything a go. You experiment and mess around and don't care about the consequences. But when you're an adult, you have less time. You have less optimism too, because you've been hurt so many times by inferior programming. In some cases people lose all drive to watch anything at all. Or they flit from one show to the next without a care for what they're doing.

Deep down we all want the same thing. We want to fall in love with a box-set that we can keep exploring again and again. That's when you know you've found something special, when you keep going back for more.

It's happened to me a few times, and I hope it has for you. If you've not been in love for a long while, don't worry, it'll come along when you least expect it. I remember a few years ago I was going through a particularly bad spell, but then 'Arrested Development' and 'Studio 60' came along. There's hope for everyone. 

Care to share?


  1. Have you watched HARRY'S LAW? I haven't yet, but am curious to see if you like it -- it's by the guy behind BOSTON LEGAL and ALLY MCBEAL.

  2. Yeah its true, when u find that special one u keep going back fooor more!

  3. Have just discovered your blog and can't wait to explore!

    My Hubby and I have been watching Harry's Law from the first episode. We like it because we adore Kathy Bates. Truly.

    Honestly, it's Boston Legal. Without James Spader. I guess Ms. Bates is the female Mr. Spader. There is also a Denny Crain. He even says his name like Denny did. I like the (familiar but can only remember his first name--Christopher) actor--think the character could disappear and it'd be all right. David Kelley is quite amazing. And so we laugh. Sometimes we argue--until I say: "This is a tv show. Let's just enjoy it, okay?" Sometimes I cry. Which is probably ridiculous.

    I think y'all should watch it at least once--if only because of Ms. Bates.

    Thank you!

  4. Lord, I remember openly sobbing at the series finales of Buffy and Angel; and how hard the ending to Quantum Leap was and how pissed I was when Firefly was canceled.

    To give oneself over to that love, when some people merely see it as entertainment that can be walked away from... it's hard. And don't get me started on how hard it is love a Joss Whedon show when the characters drop like flies.

    For now, I have Community and Modern Family, and I've heard that Friday Night Lights, which I will be starting soon, is magnificent.

    I'll take what I can get. :)

  5. Fantastic post! It has indeed been a while since I've been in love... Over the last couple of years, I've had a few flings with Modern Family and Community, but the spark didn't last. I'm kind of seeing New Girl now, but already losing interest. Love is such a fickle thing.